Life is all about change

I went to a friends going away party tonight. It was all just a little bit blah.

Life is all about change. At times we get to choose the change, at times the changes are forced upon us. The things that happen, the scenery we pass is the things that makes life interesting. Sometimes the destination become less important as the detours take over.

These detours show us who we are. These are where the challenges lie. The detours are the things that we cannot plan for. If we could plan for them we never would do them. Some of the best detours that I have had are things that I would never have attempted if I was not placed in a position where I had a choice.

Detours not only challenge us. They also show us so many things. Pretty scenes, interesting people, new places.

Some detours last minutes and sometimes you never arrive at the planned destination.

Some of my most favourite people, and most memorable moments occurred on a detour, as an indirect and pleasant result of change.

In one weeks time

In one weeks time, I am no longer going to be living alone.
In one weeks time, I am going to have a flat mate.
In one weeks time, I am sure my life will be different.
In one weeks time, my life will have more balance.
In one weeks time, I won't always eat my own cooking.
In one weeks time, I am going to be sharing a bathroom.
In one weeks time, I will annoy and be annoyed at home.
In one weeks time, I will have someone to drink with.
In one weeks time...

I'm looking forward to it.

I have a stationery fasination

It was so sad when I worked in a stationery supply store. I love stationery. I love it so much that I purchase too much. I have to hold myself back from buying all the cool things that would either make my life easier. I cannot resist things that make my work pretty.

I like to write with pens that are not blue or black, pink or purple are cool choices.
I like to fasten my paper with clips of pink or blue or yellow or white or red, not boring silver staples or black fold back clips.
I like nice paper, thick paper, rich paper.
I like notebooks with interesting covers full of colour and other interesting bits and peices.
I like coloured texters, of different shapes and thicknesses.
I like multiple highlighters of various shades.
I like post it notes that have interesting shapes, interesting textures or interesting colours.
I like writing paper that is crisp, not too girly.
I like envelops that match.

Ah, I'm so glad that I no longer like work in a stationery store and so is my wallet.

It's plan and simple. I like stuff. No I love stuff... what about you?

I dislike

I seriously dislike blogs that have music that explode 5 seconds after landing on the site.

I DON'T LIKE IT

Sunday Night Nothings

I've got a case of the Sunday Night Nothings. There are so many things that I have to do, and nothing that I am doing. There are so many things that I should have done, that I never did. There are so many things that I must do tomorrow, that I am not going to get them all done.

Ah well such is life. I'm going to enjoy the rest of my Sunday night. I'm going to enjoy the cool air that is falling through the window.

Hope that you do too.

Just thought that I would let you know

Today is a beautiful day. The sun is shining, the sky is blue, there is a breeze blowing. Last week I was wearing a coat and hoping that winter would never come.

Today I am wearing a singlet and cargo's and doing what needs to be done.

As I sit here, through the window I see the shadow that the tree out the front is making on the wall, and am watching the waving arms of the native shrub in the garden proudly displaying the white clusters of soft flowers that have surprising sprung free.

There are days when I hate living in Melbourne, because the weather is so changing. Today is one of those days that I rejoice.

It's the weather. It's my life. It's the freedom that I have. It's the music that is playing.

Life is good. And I hope that yours is too.

Something to think about...

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but shorter tempers, wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more, but have less, we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgement, more experts, yet more problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.
We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We've learned how to make a living, but not a life. We've added years to life not life to years. We've been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbour. We conquered outer space but not inner space. We've done larger things, but not better things.

We've cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul. We've conquered the atom, but not our prejudice. We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less. We've learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes. These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill. It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete...

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn't cost a cent.

Remember, to say, "I love you" to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.
Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

AND ALWAYS REMEMBER:

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

-- George Carlin

Other people's life

I was driving home today, and I came to the realisation that I make up lives for the people in the cars around me.

People who appear to be happy, who allow you in, who are generally polite are given lives that are fun and full.

People who cut me off, who can't drive and who don't smile are given the lives that are busy and rushed and stressed.

I know that my mum makes up stories of where people are going and what they are doing... 3 white cars following eachother are on their way to the same wedding... it does not matter that they take different exits off of the highway... for that moment in time, they had what my mother said they did.

I wonder what other people think when they observe others.

What kind of life do others give me?

What do you think of?

Listen

When I ask you to listen to me and you start to give me advice, you have not done what I asked.

When I ask you to listen to me and you begin to tell me why I should not feel that way, you are trampling on my feelings.

When I ask you to listen to me and you feel you have to do something to solve my problems, you have failed me, strange as that may seem.

Listen! All I ask is that you listen. Not talk or do - just hear me.

And I can DO for myself - I am not helpless. Maybe discouraged and faltering, but not helpless.

When you do something for me tha tI can and need to do for myself, you contribute to my fear and weakness.

But when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel, no matter how irrational, then I quit trying to convince you and can get about the business of understanding what's behind this irrational feeling. And when that's clear, the answers are obvious and I don't need advice.

So, please listen and just hear me, and if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn - and I'll listen to you.

Quotes I like

If facts are the seeds that later produce knowledge and wisdom, then the emotions and the impressions of the senses are the furtile soil in which the seeds must grow. Rachel L. Carson

Very little is needed to make a happy life... it is all within yourself in your way of thinking. Marcus Aurelius

Until I accept my faults, I will most certainly doubt my virtues. Hugh Prather

Each human being is born as something new, something that never existed before. He is born with what he needs to win at life. Each person in his own way can see, hear, touch, taste and think for himself. Each has his own unique potentials - his capabilities and limitations. Each can be a significant, thinking, aware, and creatively productive person in his own right - a winner. Muriel James and Dorothy Jongeward

A New Day.
Today is a new day. You will get out of it just what you put into it. If you have made mistakes, there is always another chance for you. And supposing you have tried and failed again, you may have a fresh start at any moment you choose, for this thing that we call "failure" is not the falling down, but the staying down. Mary Pickford

Everything has its beauty but not everyone sees it. Confucious

Leap of Faith.
The African Impala can jump to a height for over 10 feet and cover a distance of greater than 30 feet. Yet these magnificent creaturs can be kept in an enclosure in any zoo with a 3 foot fence. The animals will not jump if they cannot see where their feet will fall.
Faith is the ability to trust what we cannot see, and with faith we are freed from the flimsy enclosures of life that only fear allows to entrap us. Craig Larson

The 6 Most Important Words
"I made a mistake. I'm sorry"
The 5 Most Important Words
"You did a great job"
The 4 Most Important Words
"What is your opinion?"
The 3 Most Important Words
"I love you"
The 2 Most Important Words
"Thank you"
The Least Important Word
"I"

Some things that would make all our lives better.

Love
Everyone need love whether they are right, wrong, happy, sad, pretty or plain. We all need to be loved "as is".
Respect
Treat everyone as a valued person. Let each make choices. Explain your decisions. Demonstrate confidence in their abilities.
Honesty
Everyone needs to know and trust others. Lies, half-truths and deceptions confuse.
Fairness
Everyone needs to know the rules and limits. They need to know these rules and limits will be enforced fairly and consistently.
Understanding
Everyone has the right to be understood. Listen to others. If you don't listen and learn, you will never understand.
Consistency
Behaviour should be consistent - the same today and tomorrow. Changing rules confuses people and makes them feel insecure.
Patience
It is to easy to expect too much. People need to be taught, told and shown... again and again...
Flexibilty
Everyone grows and changes. Be prepared to make personal adjustments to attitudes, rules, consequences and limits.
Acceptance
While behaviour may not alway be acceptable, people must always be accepted. Never reject purely because of poor behaviour.
Empathy
Try to feel what another feels, see things as another sees them, and understand things as another understands them.
Time
People need your attention and companionship. Make time to listen, learn, teach, play, read, watch and talk.

I've got broadband

Can't chat, surfing...

What I want right now...

I want to sit with my eyes closed and have someone else run their finger through my hair. To let it fall through their fingers. To slide their palms over my hair. To run their fingernails over my scalp. To massage my scalp. To softly comb my hair...

Maybe I will just spoil myself on the weekend and go and get a scalp massage... It's better when there is care there. It's better when you don't have to pay for the simplest pleasures...

Tonight's Sunset






Beautiful!

Old friendships

I love public holidays where I have Monday off, as they give me an opportunity to catch up with friends who live overseas and pop online on a Sunday afternoon to check there email and fulfil their surfing quota...

For some friends, occasional emails and occasional chats are all we have.

I love all of my friends. Each one brings something special to my life. Each one shares experiences that make my life richer. Each one has wisdom and knowledge to share. Each one makes me laugh and makes me cry.

Regardless of the land that they call home, their age, their politcal or religious beliefs, these people are important.

The internet has allowed me to make friends with people I would never meet. With the internet, barriers that exist in the real world are ignored or overcome.

Old friendships are precious. And I am thankful for the friends who have lasted a while.

The haircut

Oh dear. I went to the hair dresser today. I am trying to grow my hair. My best friend says that I should have my hair cut off.... reckons that it looks better short.

Anyway, today was my day for no longer putting off things that I have been putting of for ages... I went to the doctor and had my first of 3 shots for the hep A and hep B vaccination... and I hate needles... So to continue on with the theme of the day, I walked past a hairdresser and thought, I've been putting it off for months.

I thought I would see if they had an appointment, and I was able to go straight in. All I asked for was a trim, and I told the hairdresser that I needed to be able to tie it back... so here I am at home, with my hair in a pony tail.... The bits that don't go back are really giving me the shits...

why don't people listen?
why have I paid for what I don't want?

It's not like the length can be stuck back on.

I know... I know... it's only hair, it will grow back

100 things you may or may not know about me

1. I turn 30 this year.
2. I thought that I was cool with turning 30.
3. I thought wrong.
4. I am really not that freaked out.
5. I am really bad with remembering friends birthdays.
6. I was born on Christmas day.
7. I am a twin.
8. My dad is a triplet.
9. My dad's mum had one set of twins and one set of triplets.
10. I am scared to have kids for the fear of a multiple birth.
11. I wish that I was more adventurous.
12. I am scared of heights.
13. I have crashed my car too many times.
14. I procrastinate.
15. I talk to myself.
16. I even answer my own questions.
17. I used to drink coke for breakfast.
18. I like vegemite and peanut butter on the one slice of toast.
19. I hate dishonest people.
20. I hate hypocrates.
21. I love to gossip.
22. I know that gossip can tend to fall into the category of dishonest and hypocrytical.
23. I have never smoked a cigarette.
24. I love to eat.
25. I live to eat.
26. Hot potato chips (chunky fries) are my absolute weakness.
27. I don't like chocolate.
28. My favourite flowers are tulips.
29. I love summer.
30. I like autumn.
31. I crave for spring.
32. I hate winter.
33. I float.
34. I love to swim in the ocean out past the breakers.
35. The bay is not the beach.
36. I want to experience a White Christmas.
37. I hate my Nana's plum pudding.
38. I always have 2 serves it at Christmas because it is expected.
39. I usually drown the pudding in custard.
40. I love my friend who hates the shortened version of Spaghetti Bolognese.
41. I love fresh bread and butter.
42. I hate mornings.
43. I am not a morning person.
44. I usually watch TV while writing emails and blog entries.
45. I watch too much TV.
46. I love to read.
47. I often pick books to read by the cover.
48. I also pick cds by the cover.
49. When I was so much younger, I went overseas to meet up with an internet lover.
50. I decided to delete this entry.
51. The 2 men that I have loved have both been called John.
52. I have never dumped someone.
53. I really want to.
54. I thought about getting back with my ex just to do that.
55. I decided that it would be wrong.
56. Sometimes I still think of doing it.
57. I like to drink red wine that has been cooled.
58. I have never had a one night stand.
59. I think that I should.
60. One day I might.
61. I am single :P
62. I love icecream.
63. I love eating icecream in bed.
64. I enjoying mowing the lawn.
65. Stupid people annoy me.
66. I should be a fashion cop.
67. I hate people who wear light shoes and dark pants.
68. I have had a snake wrapped around my shoulders.
69. I have been to a physic.
70. Some of what she said was true.
71. I am still freaked out when I think of it.
72. I think I want to do it again.
73. I wish I had thick straight long hair.
74. I wish my feet were smaller.
75. I am stubborn.
76. I am really stubborn.
77. I want to learn to dance.
78. I played the flute at school.
79. I also played the tuba.
80. I drink at least 3 litres of water a day.
81. 3 litres of plain water.
82. I have a strange obsession with pink.
83. I am not a nice person.
84. I write poetry.
85. I want to earn more money.
86. I fear that I will never return home.
87. I like my own company.
88. I hate silence.
89. I go to sleep listening to music.
90. I have questionable taste in music.
91. I love BBQs.
92. I miss my interstate friends.
93. I miss being part of a couple.
94. I put tomato sauce on almost anything.
95. I love exploring.
96. I am quite gullible.
97. I wonder what my life would be if I had made different decisions.
98. I don't regret any decisions that I have made.
99. I would make the same ones again.
100. I hardly ever wear makeup.
101. I love having hair cuts because it make my hair softer.
102. I like my life.
103. I even like me.
104. I love watching V8 car racing and WRC.
105. I pretend to not understand sport because it annoys others.
106. I can be really annoying.
107. I love to laugh.
You have a couple of bonus answers because I don't know if all of the things actually count.

Well I've finally done it

I've finally signed up for broadband internet access.

That will just mean that I see more stuff while wasting the same amount of time.

Gotta love technology.

From a comment


Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it. It really is worth fighting for, being brave for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more. ~erica jong


Perhaps Erica is correct. Perhaps it worries me if she is correct. Actually, it does worry me.

If love came looking for me, I think that I would turn and run away. I don't even think that I would look back.

Perhaps Erica's words are true in the same way that the following thoughts are true. Sometimes wanting something so much means that it is never really yours. If you manage to hold onto something that you crave and have craved for many years, you are scared that you are imagining it all. You are scared that it is just a dream and that when you wake it is all going to fall through your fingers like sand. This makes you hold on so tightly that you end up breaking it into peice. The strength of you desire and the size of all your fears is too much.

How do you balance it. How do you have the strength to let go of the fear that sufficates you? How do you balance holding on and setting it free? How do you find the courage to risk all to get all?

I have work to do that I don't want to do

So what do I do? Procrastinate and write a blog entry.

Okay, time to go back and do some work...

Maybe I'll bake some muffins first!